Howdy ho everyone, I know everyone has missed seeing posts from me the last couple weeks...right? Well in either case I'm back to address your boredom while your staring at the screen of yours. You're welcome and enjoy!
Let’s talk about a type of health that, thankfully, is coming more and more into the limelight and being talked about more. Your mental health. Above you’ll see a rough estimate of what one of my busier days during the spring looks like. To be clear, this is not a post about how busy I am, I’m not comparing me to the next person or asking you to compare yourself to me, those types of people need not apply. Back to it, as most of you know, that have been following me for longer than a hot minute, I coach a high school rugby team in the spring. Now, some of you will say, oh that’s not THAT busy. You might be right, but there’s a few things to consider. The percentage of my time being free pretty much goes in half. What you don’t see above is the time it takes to prep for and travel to these things (my residence is about 30 min from work and the high school field). Also, consider I should probably be doing that thing at the bottom (sleeping) somewhere in there for 8 or so hours, eating every so often and trying to get a lift in here or there, oh yeah and spend time with the my wife. Also, these aren’t just your desk jobs where you can mindlessly waltz through them when you’re tired, you HAVE to be ON.
With all this in mind, I knew I had to seek help for myself to deal with the approaching months, so last February, with The Boss’ help, I sought out help from a professional.
Before I continue you here, let’s get this out of the way. THERAPY, say it again, therapy! It’s not a dirty word, and it does not mean that people should treat you differently if you’ve decided it’s time to address issues with the help of a professional. We are moving away from this stigma, but still it’s a little absurd. Compare these 2 instances, if someone seeks out a strength coach or personal trainer, they say, "hey good for you". However, if you seek out a psychologist they say, "oh that’s nice", while quietly thinking, "oh damn is this person going off the deep end?"
Now, where were we? Oh right! This was a move I made for the health of myself and my relationships, especially Catherine. This is what some would call “me time”, and it is. This is the type of self-care time we ALL should carve out to help us be the best we can be. I see mine once a week and I don’t feel shame, what I feel is mother-effing relief! If there’s nothing else is going on, it’s just a safe space to hash out the thoughts traveling through my skull.
Of course there’s much more that goes on than that quite often, but the point being, if you’re someone that tends to juggle 10 things at once or just needs someone to help get their thoughts straight, therapy isn’t a dirty word. I mean hey, you all probably knew I was batty already, so what’s the difference, right? It comes in rather handy when you bump into a situation with a client or an athlete that you can’t quite get into with too many people, and they’ll help you unpack all of that, as it’s called. Seriously though, the quicker we can stop turning our nose up at this stuff, the better we will all be and folks will be much more likely to seek help.
To recap, you're likely doing yourself a disservice by not admitting you could use some outside help (as in any case when it comes to literally everything), so park that pride of yours for 5 minutes and consider others in your life. If for no other reason, cut that beast off at the head, for them. Hopefully this didn't come accross as too preachy or ridiculous and you all got something out of it. Until next time team First XV, go out and get after it!
Jarrod Dyke, CSCS